Any and every movie that ever was made - and anything that ever will be made: wouldn't exist if humans liked simple things. A boy fell in love with a girl who didn't love him back - so he waited for a bit but then moved on with another girl who loved him back. Every one was happy. End of the story.
A boy and a girl fell in love with each other - everyone lived happily ever after. End of the story.
But no. We wouldn't like stories like these - we wouldn't live stories like these, to begin with. We don't like simple things - we don't like simple events - we don't like simple people - we don't like simple narratives. Where's the fiction in it? Where's the drama in it? Where's the complexity in it? WHAT'S THE PROBLEM TO FIX?
Unfortunately for humans, we are inclined towards solving things. We are inclined towards fixing things, people, situations and habits.
We are so deeply wired to solve problems and find purpose in it, that where there are no problems - we tend to create them. One of my previous articles' focused on self-sabotaging tactics and behaviours that humans normally exhibit, but in all honesty and discovery - the crux is always this: We don't like anything to be simplistically linear.
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Few Ways In Which We Tend To Seek The "Villain" Where There Is None:
We don't think we can get success the easy way: There's always a hero story in every successful person's life. And we assume that because we haven't struggled enough, this is not the ultimate success that we should be enjoying. We don't believe that we can get success by the sheer work that we might have put in - without any villain to hero story.
We don't think we can find love - and settle for it the simple way: If there are no heartbreaks, no hurdles, nobody opposing the relationship and everybody is fairly happy - we don't think it's the ultimate love for us. We think this is just a roadblock on the way for us finding our ultimate love eventually. So we take the current love - with simplicity to hold the potential for a future together - for granted.
We don't believe that a person can be simple and honest and loving, if we ever are privileged enough to meet someone like that: We tend to think that people are damaged and are concealing their flaws impeccably that we are missing out on the layers beneath. We just completely discard the fact that they can be simple and honest and caring - without any concealed ulterior motives. We always tend to assume the worst in somebody - even when we don't find them right away.
We don't like if we are called simple: We like to be called complicated, because that adheres to the common belief that everything at the end of the day, is complicated. Nothing is as simple as it seems - so we tend to blend ourselves and poke holes in ourselves to just abide by this narrative that nobody can be fairly simple.
If everything seems to be going simplistically straight, we tend to place some disbelief on it: Whenever we see things are moving in linear motion, we tend to immediately think something is fishy and that something is about to crash - somewhere.
How To Correct Yourself When You See The Tendency Slipping:
Trust the process: Sometimes things are linear and are pretty straightforward. For that belief to stay put, you need to be able to start trusting the process and the universe to make things fall in their own places.
Even when you can't trust the process, keep a check on your reactions: If you keep thinking about the ways in which things can be sabotaged - you're essentially creating problems and might as well be taking away a good thing only because you are too scared to believe. So keeping a check on your actions and reactions is a good starter.
Keep a tab on self-sabotaging behaviours: Make sure that you are not digging your own grave by your self-sabotaging behaviours if you think that things are simple and they should NOT be simple.
Humans crave complexity because it gives them a purpose and makes them feel good about themselves - because then they are able to solve that complexity. This bias, most likely, will never go away. The least we can do is a keep on the moments when this bias comes up and takes over the good things.
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